Instructor Reading List

In addition to workshops, classes, and experience, learning from others is a great way to support your goals. Below are essential books to help you think, speak, and lead like a skilled martial arts instructor for women and girls. I recommend reading rather than watching videos, as books allow focused learning. If you prefer audiobooks, that's fine too :)

These books are not listed in any particular order, so start with the one that resonates with you most or aligns with what you want to learn. Click on each title for more information.

  • "A generation which ignores history has no past and no future".  - Robert A. Heinlein

    Unfortunately, there are no English translations of Muay Thai scriptures, as many were lost in wars centuries ago, and they have yet to be translated into English. Fortunately, "Martial Virtues" details the history and values taught by various martial arts and warrior classes worldwide. Many of these teachings can still be applied in any martial artist's life, regardless of discipline. 

  • Being an effective teacher is about knowing what you teach, and being able to connect with your students and your audience. Written by a former monk, “Lost Art of Good Conversation” incorporates Buddhist principles of mindfulness and compassion into conversation techniques that can be applied with anyone-from friends, family, co-workers, and strangers. As a public speaker, and mentor to your community, being able to conduct meaningful conversations is key to becoming a trusted leader.

  • Women and girls navigate unique challenges, such as body image issues, setting healthy boundaries, self-esteem fluctuations, and the complexities of building healthy relationships. As a female leader, it’s crucial to model positive behaviors and attitudes that empower students to confront these challenges confidently.

    Gilbraith's book emphasizes the importance of social cues and emotional intelligence in fostering empowerment among females. Instead of focusing on physical techniques or skills, “Strong Women Lift Each Other Up” encourages us to create a supportive environment that inspires women to embrace their individuality, support one another, and cultivate healthy relationships grounded in mutual respect and understanding.

  • "Queen Bees and Wannabes" is the book that inspired the hit film "Mean Girls." Unlike the movie, which is a dramatized portrayal of female dynamics and bullying, Wiseman's book offers a more nuanced exploration of the complexities of female friendships, the impact of bullying, and the societal pressures young girls face. The book provides valuable insights for parents and mentors, equipping them with strategies to help guide girls through the challenges of adolescence and early adulthood. It's a vital resource for understanding the realities of "girl world" and supporting young women in developing healthy relationships and self-esteem.

  • Intimate partner violence (IPV) is a significant issue that affects countless individuals, particularly women. As a teacher, it's crucial to be aware of the signs and experiences related to domestic violence, as students may feel comfortable sharing their stories with you. While addressing this topic may seem outside your immediate responsibilities, having knowledge about IPV can greatly impact your ability to respond appropriately to those in need.

    Understanding the dynamics of intimate partner violence is essential, especially when it comes to teaching self-defense. The tactics used in male-on-male violence often differ from those used in IPV situations. Women, in particular, may encounter unique challenges and strategies that are not only physical but also emotional and psychological.

    Being informed about the nature of domestic violence allows you to create a supportive environment where survivors can feel safe and heard. It also enables you to address the specific threats and scenarios that women may face. This knowledge empowers both you as an instructor and your students, equipping them with the tools to protect themselves effectively.

    Ultimately, fostering a culture of understanding and support can make a significant difference in the lives of those affected by intimate partner violence.

  • Self-defense starts with awareness—of both our surroundings and instincts. Intuition can be a powerful tool, often guiding us in ways we may not even fully understand, but made for our safety. The book "The Gift of Fear" emphasizes the importance of trusting this intuition and recognizing the signs that may indicate potential danger. It encourages us to pay attention to our instincts and to understand that our feelings are valid, even if others may dismiss them. Ultimately, it teaches that we have a fundamental right to protect ourselves because we are worth fighting for.

  • Martial arts involve the study of physical conflict, but this takes place in a controlled environment. Many students train martial arts primarily for fitness, or self-defense rather than to compete. As instructors, it is our responsibility to distinguish between fighting for competition and fighting for survival. We must clearly communicate these differences when conducting drills and discussing real-life violence with our students. If we fail to recognize this distinction, we may inadvertently put ourselves and our students in danger. Rory Miller draws on his experience as a self-defense instructor and former corrections officer to outline these realities and dispel common myths about real-life violence.

Katrina Velasquez